By Racheal Bola-Keji
I don’t know about you but there is always one thing in particular I look forward to every Christmas. And no it’s not decorating the Christmas tree or even receiving gifts. Don’t get me wrong, both these things are crucial to Christmas tradition .
I’ve always been a sucker for the simple things. You know that feeling you get, laying in bed wrapped up warm whilst watching your favourite Christmas movies. That feeling right here is my idea of Christmas bliss.
Holiday films have taught me a lot of life lessons, and I just wanted to share them with you all.
Christmas Film 1 : The Best Man’s Holiday
Life is too short to hold unto hurt.
Within seconds of the reunion, there is an immediate understanding that Lance (Morris Chestnut) still resents his college best friend Harper (Taye Diggs) even after 15 years of being apart. Yes you heard me right, 15 years and they still had unresolved issues.
From an outside perspective this sounds crazy right? But many of us fall into this trap. Year after year, we get offended and year after year we refuse to let it go. I have definitely experienced this scenario before, but one thing this Christmas film has taught me, is that time may not heal wounds but forgiveness will.
Yes I understand that forgiveness is hard, but believe me when I say that it’s one of the best decisions you can make.
Forgiveness is not about making the offender feel better but it’s for the fulfilment of the one forgiving.When we choose to let go, we choose happiness and peace.
Life is way too short to stay offended! This is a lesson from The Best Mans Holiday that I will carry with me for a long time.
Christmas Film 2 : Frozen
Everybody loves Frozen, no matter what age you are, Frozen is a disney favourite and an all time Christmas classic. Frozen tells the story of Anna (a fearless princess) who sets off on a journey to find her estranged sister Elsa, whose icy powers have trapped their kingdom in eternal winter.
What could I have possibly learnt from such a film you ask? Frozen may be a childlike film but I believe it still holds deep lessons on identity and community.
Being different is a blessing, not a curse.
Within the film, we see Elsa run away from home because she feared that she was too different to be accepted by others. What we the viewers see as uniqueness, Elsa deems as an abnormality because throughout the film she is labelled as an outcast and a misfit.
I can 100% relate to Elsa, I too have shied away from being my true self out of fear that others won’t perceive it well.
This winter classic has taught me a lot about self love and the importance of being surrounded by a community that loves you. We all need friends and family like Anna who will embrace and accept us for who we are.
The first lesson here is to be yourself unapologetically! Think about it, life is way too short, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. The second lesson is that you never have to go through life alone, seek counsel and help from family and friends.
Be smart enough to know when you need help and brave enough to ask for help when you need it.
If I learnt anything from Frozen, it would be that running away is never a healthy option.
Christmas Film 3 : A Christmas Carol
A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens tells the story of Ebenezer Scrooge, an old man who transforms his miserly ways after four ghostly visits one Christmas Eve. Every Christmas without a doubt this particular film is heavily broadcasted on our television screens, and I can understand why.
This film is deliberately saturated with promptings on self evaluation and messages on being a better person. This Christmas movie always pushes me to reevaluate my actions and be kinder to people.
It is never too late to start over.
The character of Scrooge teaches me that no matter how bitter you are at life, there is always a chance at redemption. We are humans, we make mistakes knowingly and unknowingly but it’s never too late to change for the better. One thing 2020 has taught me is that the world would be a much better place if love was more prominent than hate. But it all starts with the individual, the way we treat others has an effect on a lot of things.
A Christmas Carol is just a reminder that in the end only kindness matters.
And that’s a wrap! These are just a few life lessons I have learnt over the years from my favorite Christmas films. Let me know what your favorite holiday films are and any lessons you’ve learnt from them.